Facing an Unplanned Pregnancy?
Frequently Asked Questions
There are many reasons why Birthparents choose
adoption; a single mother may want her baby to have two stable parents, a
couple may feel they're too young or don't have the financial resources to
raise a child. Others need to complete their education or are in the midst of
career difficulties. Even married Birthparents may feel their relationship is
not stable enough for a child or they cannot care for more children. Every
Birthparent is unique so every reason is unique. Only you can make the decision
about adoption and your reasons will be respected.
Yes! You choose your adoptive couple if you want to.
You can spend time with them to get to know them. Many Birthparents meet for
dinner, go to doctor visits together, talk on the telephone and/or write to
each other. You can be the one to hand the baby to them at the hospital. Or,
you can make your choice without meeting them. Open adoption allows you to
decide how open or private you want your relationship to be with the family you
It is very important to make an adoption plan that is
comfortable for both you and the adoptive parents. Many Birthparents receive
letters and photos from the adoptive parents on an ongoing basis, some just
periodically. Others have phone conversations and a few actually visit one
another. It is important to choose parents whose ideas about ongoing contact
are similar to your own. Sometimes adopting couples are initially fearful about
continued contact, but your Adoption Advisor can help them with this and help you make
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You will know that your baby is with a good adopting family because you choose them, meet them and get to know them. Even if you prefer not to have much contact, your couple will
be thoroughly evaluated in an adoption homestudy process done by the state they live in.
This includes assessments of their marital stability, financial situation,
lifestyle, and medical history. Then fingerprints will be taken to verify there
is no record of criminal activity or child abuse. Their home will also be
inspected by a social worker to ensure it is a safe environment for a child. We
also provide education on adoption and parenting for them. After all of these
requirements are met, the family may go before the adoption judge and finally
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If you need financial assistance, we have adoptive families who can help with your living expenses or other costs that are related to
the pregnancy (as allowed by state law). We will help you apply for any public assistance or insurance benefits to which you are
entitled during your pregnancy. The adoption judge will review what expenses are paid to you before the adoption is finalized so we must
keep careful records. We will help you to comply with the adoption laws.
We have our own maternity home for our Birthmothers
who have chosen adoption. We also have a satellite home program and various
other housing options that we can utilize to find a safe place for you.
A Birthfather may be hesitant about adoption at first, but then realizes that he may not have the time or resources to parent the child.
Usually he just needs reassurance that he will not be shut out of the adoption process and can be involved if he chooses.
An Adoption Advisor is available to speak with him to help guide guide him through the adoption process.
Under California law, your relinquishment documents are signed once you have given birth and are medically discharged from the hospital. It is a good idea to think about your plans as early in your pregnancy as possible, especially if you would like to get to know a family and want the baby to go home with them from the hospital. Normally, irrevocable relinquishments are taken 48-72 hours after the birth of the child with an agency adoption.
The couple who adopts your child will be given
information about your background, family and medical history, interests and
hobbies - what you are like as a person. They will learn how and when to share
this information and how to answer your child's questions with love and
sensitivity. They will explain the very difficult and unselfish decision you
made when you decided adoption would be best for your child.
YES! There may always be a bit of sadness in your
heart that circumstances for you were not different. Amy, an eighteen year old
Birthmother once said "Any remorse or sadness that I once felt, was replaced
with the joy, warmth, love, security, and financial stability that my adoptive
couple will provide for my child. I can now plan to reorganize my life and
create a future for myself. I could not have accomplished this without the
support and concern of the people at Adoption Network Law Center."
Contact us today for your FREE Adoption Kit 1-866-942-3678
Call us at 1-866-942-3678 right now to speak with an Adoption Specialist or for your convenience complete the online contact form.
An Adoption Specialist will gladly explain the adoption process.
Your confidential phone call or email does not obligate you in any way.
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